Most guys fail at the approach because they won’t or can’t try. Why? Man’s most feared emotion in dating – the one that will give him the biggest blow to his ego is… REJECTION. As long as you aren’t approaching you aren’t getting turned down and if you aren’t getting turned down then your ego can continue to assume it’s the man. A healthy ego is not a problem – but stopping yourself due to your ego is – that’s where things become unhealthy. Did things get easier as you went along?

The problem is you don’t even realize you’re doing it – you probably think it’s because you’re scared but where is that fear coming from? That fear is originating in your ego that is telling you that you will feel much worse if you get turned down but in the meantime you’re in a total rut because by not approaching it’s just like a no anyway. ONLY way you will get her to be in your life is for you to make a move – and since dating is like sales a lot of your approaches will go nowhere.

The ONLY way you will get her to be in your life is for you to make a move – and since dating is like sales a lot of your approaches will go nowhere. Just like the great salesperson that makes 100 calls to get 10 appointments to end up with one sale, that is the kind of mentality you need! The alternative is you let your ego wallow in its fantasy world of being great even though you sat and stared at your drink all night. Apply logic to approaching without my checkbook as motivation.

Of course you’ll probably be bad at your initial approaches – but if you keep trying and learning then you’ll get better – it’s all a numbers game and practice! I have 3 great tips on approaching women to get you started! Remember guys, when you don’t approach you tell yourself no before you give her a chance to say yes. I understand it’s not easy and sometimes you fumble for things to say but let’s bring this back to your career. Did things get easier as you went along?